So many of you know that I am in therapy. I go three times a week… it’s basically like I live there.
Once a week, I go to group therapy with five other amazing women. We are all different ages and come from different walks of life but there is one thing we all have in common- we are all a hot mess.
Honestly, I should adjust that phrase, we were all a hot mess. Our group of women have been together for well over a year and we have all made great strides together. We all have our moments but we pick each other up and support one another like a well fitted bra.
We have seen each other cry and rage but we have also seen each other take those important steps to become healthy. We have shared in each other’s joys and triumphs. Those joy and triumphs used to be few and far between but now, we are all within grasp of being healthy, normal women. Honestly, it’s the rest of you reading this that need to get their shit together. Our shit is so together that you would be amazed about where we once were.
So who do we thank for this? Well, first we thank each other, our two amazing and dedicated therapists and finally, we are learning to thank and love ourselves.
At the beginning of each session, we have a mindfulness activity to ground ourselves and to become aware of our own body sensations and our own thought process. On Wednesday, one of the women lead the mindfulness and this is what happened:
Mindfulness leader/client 1 holds up a ball and says, ‘we are going to pass this around the circle and say one descriptive word about this ball but we are not allowed to repeat any of the other words used by people before us.’
Client 2: ‘ok, whoa, this is heavy.’
Client 3: ‘yeah, this is solid.’
Client 4… aka: me: ‘umm, it has patterns.’
Therapist 1: ‘it’s a ball.’
Therapist 2: ‘it’s weighted.’
Client 5: ‘it’s round.’
Client 6: ‘it’s yellow and black.’
…back to the mindfulness leader/client 1: ‘this ball is ten pounds. Ten. You all described this ball as being heavy and weighted and that is all true. And it is also the exact amount of weight that Allison lost in these last two weeks.’
I was so dumbfounded because I wasn’t expecting to bring that up in our group. Not because I wasn’t proud but because I don’t like to be the center of attention. However, when client 1 brought this up to the group it was hard to take in because 1: I was flabbergasted and caught off guard and 2: I don’t celebrate my successes enough.
So think about this for a moment. When have we, especially as women, when have we celebrated our successes? When have we been proud of our accomplishments? When have we been proud of our hard work? I will tell you what… We aren’t. We don’t give ourselves enough credit or enough self love.
It takes true friends to show you off. It takes a true friend to celebrate your accomplishments even when you don’t feel like there is much to celebrate. It takes a true friend to show you the way and to help you take in what is good and decent about you. I am very thankful for client 1. I am thankful that she is a true friend that is going to pick me up, dust me off and show me off. I am thankful that she was so thoughtful and creative in this mindfulness exercise. It’s fantastic to surround yourself with people like client 1 and the rest of those wonderful women I surround myself with every week.
So now it’s time. It’s wonderful to have those people in your life but it’s time to also be that friend to yourself.
Women, it is time to love yourself as much as we love others.
Until next time,
Dropping ten pounds like a boss and showing off one less fat roll.
This blog is dedicated to all the fabulous woman I surround myself with every Wednesday. Thank you J, D, S, and L. And R, thank you for picking me up, dusting me off and celebrating my small victory.
And to our two wonderful therapists, Colleen and Jess… Our lives wouldn’t be what they are right now without your love, guidance, patience and hard work. We know that we were hot messes when we started and you have helped us in ways we didn’t know were possible. We don’t owe you a drink, we owe you the whole damn liquor store for your hard work and dedication. Thank you for teaching us how to deal with life and how to deal with life’s idiots.
With love, client #4